When Should Parents Let Go?

Thesis Statement : The common problem that teens and their parents face at some point in their lives is the time when teens want to take charge of their lives

Main Ideas

  1. Parents should let teens make their own decisions when they hit the age of 17 or 18.
  2. In a parent’s persepective, they usually want to keep making decisions for us until we’ve finished college, or even when we are already adults
  3. In a teenager’s eyes, they start to long for the freedom of making their own choices, as early as high school

Supporing Ideas

  1. We should be allowed to make our own decisions at this age because this is where we start our journey to becoming independent, and we already know what is right and wrong
  2. They do this because they are convinced they know what is best for us, and they want to protect us from harm
  3. Teenagers want to make their own decisions because they want to explore the world, and they are usually tired from being sheltered their whole lives.

Conclusion: I believe that both sides have a point in their stands, but I still believe that parents should still let their chilren make their own choices when they are maturing, because nothing beats experience.

      The common problem that teenagers and their parents all face at some point in their lives is when the teens want to take charge of  their lives, while the parents still want to shelter them. This is a topic of debate because there is no specific answer because each family differs from one another, and both sides have their own points and perspectives.Kids and parents often experience their greatest conflict during the teen years trying to figure out just the right level of responsibility and independence for each stage of life. ( Dwight Bain, Let Go of Your 20 something kid )

The first side to be discussed will be my perspective, parents should let teens make their own decisions at the age of 17 or 18, In my perspective, this is the appropriate time to loosen the chains because this is where our journey to becoming independent starts, and this is also the stage where we develop our true personalities and what truly sets us apart from others, finally, at this stage of our lives, we should already have a firm grasp on what is right and wrong, but parents probably have a different idea.  ““One of the most important aspects of life is knowing who you are as a person. Knowing your own limitations and advantages can help keep you successful in life. Although the decisions are small for a child, it can help them discover who they are as they find that which they enjoy and what they dislike”  ( Ken M, 5 reasons to let children make their own decisions )

In a parent’s perspective, they do not think we are ready at this point, or rather, they are the ones who aren’t ready to let go just yet, they usually want to decide for their children until after college, and in some cases, even when they are already adults. Parents do this because they are convinced they know what is best for us, which at time results them in being overprotective and controlling, even if they are not aware of it. They are also concerned about our safety and at most times overthink the situation, however they also mean the best for us, but it is said that being an overprotective parent leads to weaker children ( Dwight Bain , Let Go of Your 20 Something Kid )

In a teenager’s eyes, they are ready to be free, and they start to long for freedom and the feeling of independence and making their own choices, even as early as high school or even grade school, this is sparked by their curiosity. Teenagers want to make their own decisions because they feel the urge to go out and experience what it truly means to be free and explore the unknown world, or they just simply want to be free, and discover their own identity.

In conclusion, I believe that both sides have a point for their way of thinking, but my opinion still stands that parents should let go relatively early, when teenagers are starting to making their transition to adulthood. This is because no amount of lectures and words can compare to a first-hand experience. So when teens make a mistake, they will know not to repeat it again, and of course, if you truly raised your child well, at this point in their lives, you should not have to worry about them making incredibly wrong decisions, since they should already be mature enough and know their own limits.

Sources : http://www.cbn.com/family/youth/bain_letgo.aspx

http://momitforward.com/5-reasons-let-children-make-their-own-decisions

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